Are you struggling to do things that were previously effortless? From eating breakfast to sending a text message, does everything seem impossible? Before you label yourself lazy or incapable, know this: it's not you; when everything seems impossible, it's depression.
Depression Can Make Everything Seem Impossible
The impact of depression varies from person to person. For example, when my friend is depressed, she suffers insomnia but is as productive as ever. On the other hand, when I have a depressive episode, I struggle to wake up on time, and my productivity dips.
Of course, this does not mean that my depressive episodes are identical or that my functionality is static. My ability to function depends on whether my depression level is mild, moderate, or severe. And this does not just apply to me. There are many types and levels of depression, and each impacts functionality differently.
How to Get By When Everything Feels Impossible
Choose Your Tasks Wisely
Irrespective of your type or level of depression, it affects your functioning to some extent. The right thing to do is accept this limitation and focus on only essential tasks. There is no need to beat yourself up for "not doing enough." Applaud yourself for trying your best instead of comparing with others—especially depression-free people—and questioning your self-worth.
Don't Internalize Stigma
Thanks to widespread mental health stigma, people will give you unsolicited advice like you should stop being lazy and work on your willpower. Such words reek of pure ignorance and ableism. While you can't change others' mindsets, ensure you don't internalize their ableism.
Your lack of motivation is neither a character flaw nor a personal failure. So do what you can, and rest without feeling guilty. Work on ways to boost your self-esteem because depression will attack it. And always remember: you are not weak; you are strong.
Seek Help If Your Functionality Reduces
If you find yourself more tired, overwhelmed, and unable to function than usual, please make sure you consult a mental health professional. Signs like these may indicate that your depression is becoming worse. A licensed therapist can help you learn new coping skills and set you on the path of recovery.
Lastly, if you want to support someone with depression, let them know you are able and willing to help in some capacity. A little kindness and empathy go a long way in the battle against depression.