I am an introvert who is coping with depression. Being introverted is a personality trait where I thrive on independence and recharge mentally when alone. However, I can also become emotionally drained in social settings, including at work. This raises the question: how am I, as an introvert, supposed to reach out for help and not become entirely isolated when I'm experiencing a depressive episode?
Even though it has been difficult, over the last year I have developed some ways of coping with depression that do not emotionally drain me but still prevent isolation. These strategies provide balance by acknowledging my introverted needs while still addressing my mental health.
Tips for an Introvert Coping with Depression
Here are three tips that have helped me cope with depression while still respecting my introverted personality and energy levels:
Go Outside
I know it sounds silly, but it works. When I'm depressed, my apartment becomes my shield from the outside world. Other than taking my pup out briefly, I might never leave my sanctuary. This leads to isolation and lack of motivation. To counter this, I make myself step outside for at least 10 minutes, whether it's walking to the mailbox or driving with the windows down. It reminds me that life exists outside my apartment.
Text a Loved One
I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder (MDD) in 2010, but it wasn't until last year that I admitted to myself I am not alone. I do have a couple of people who genuinely care and who I can reach out to, even if it's just through a text. The text doesn't have to reveal that I'm feeling low—it simply opens a line of human interaction without requiring a mask or too much energy.
Sometimes, sending a quick text can spark a conversation that eases my depression. I dislike explaining why I feel the way I do—because often, I don't know why. A simple message shields me from needing to explain while still connecting me to someone I trust.
Schedule a Monthly Friend Night
Being proactive in mental health wellness makes a huge difference. I keep a wellness toolbox in my journal—full of activities that bring me joy. But beyond solo activities, I also plan a monthly girls' weekend with a close friend. She holds me accountable and only lets me cancel if I'm physically sick, which rarely happens.
Since she understands my depression, she doesn't let me retreat into isolation. Even if it's just dinner out or a quiet evening with takeout and a movie, this monthly ritual ensures I stay connected, active, and cared for during both good and difficult times.
Being Introverted and Coping with Depression
Being introverted can be a struggle in itself. At times, I feel misunderstood by extroverts or by society in general, and this sense of not fitting in can lead to depression. Recovery is also harder because I prefer solitude and minimal stimulation, which makes reaching out difficult.
I can mask my depression because of my introverted tendencies, so it's up to me to practice coping skills that allow me to start recovery. The three tips above—going outside, sending a text, and scheduling a friend night—are simple yet effective. Most importantly, they don't wear me out further or worsen my depression. Instead, they offer balance, allowing me to honor my introversion while still protecting my mental health.